Saturday 29 November 2014

Mind of a divorcee

A divorce for an Indian women makes her an emotional wreck yet due to emerging women empowerment, she tries to stand again to face the world and rise like phoenix.

Mind of a Divorcee
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Realising not everything well
there was nothing more to dwell
marriage was on rocks
was put into docks.

World crumbled
sudden breakup
bolt from the blue
why it happened
didn’t have a clue.

leaving me in lurch
pulling the carpet under the legs
Oh God ! Did you see ?
Why me ?  Why me ?

Thought of putting the light out of self
Wasn’t easy,
though hurt and angry
Only questions and no real answers
Explanations could not pacify me


In the thick of break up
Slowed down a bit
Forced to reflect
and
Struggled initially
But thought of phoenix like rise
putting the past, to my  behind
adversities  making
wise and more wise.

May meet some one
sensitive and sane
lovely and grounded
caring  with feelings
allowing me
to smile again.
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All rights reserved/Tribhawan Kaul

* Phoenix is a magic bird that lives for several hundred years before burning itself and then being born again from its ashes.

20 comments:

  1. Babu Nov 30
    Hope for a new life............
    Ready for a wake-up call....
    Ride high like a Phoenix......
    Best of luck to you woman.

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  2. VAS 4 hours ago
    My dear TK,
    Good poem on divorce woman.
    Have any of you met divorce woman in courts.I have met and spoke to few.They are very bold than man who too came to the court.Main reason is the girl is independent and sure of getting another boy soon.
    In courts i have seen few affected men by cunning woman who can easily file a case to make quick money.
    Indian law favour only woman and not poor man.
    We all show sympathy only to woman.It should be on man or woman who is affected due to divorce.

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  3. tadalamurthy 2 hours ago
    'May meet someone......to smile again'.. a widowed woman need to make a very conscious effort to smile again specially in India and if she has children and she is educated and economically self-reliant...
    I find somehow the maturity levels of Indian women lesser which keep them afraid of social taboos and mired in the affections they develop towards their children.

    A nice short poem by our TK, on a sensitive issue that is plaguing current India.

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  4. Sajini Chandrasekera 8:01pm Nov 30
    Lovely

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  5. Pramila Khadun 9:57pm Nov 30
    Good one.

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  6. Neha R. Krishna 1:42am Dec 1
    Wow!! Amazing write

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  7. Hansraj Sharma 8:24am Dec 2
    Empowerment or awareness or unfortunate... burning flooded issue causing concern...what fault ...with the innocent born kids? Good work.

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  8. Aparna Pathak 10:27am Dec 2
    so good take on the mind of a divorcee... !!

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  9. Shailesh Gupta 6:23pm Dec 2
    very sensitive with a positive note at ending...:)...very nice sir...

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  10. Vinay Kumar 6:59pm Dec 2
    Nice read amazing

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  11. Naresh Raghani Madhukar 4:02pm Dec 2
    touchy thought sir .... jai sree krishna

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  12. savi0301 Yesterday, 14:07
    Dear TK read the poem few times to grasp the meaning the emotions behind the mind the heart of a woman who gets divorced or seeks divorce.
    Being a woman myself i know a woman would never want divorce but when things become impossible for her to carry on, when her world crumbles to the level of no hope, she has to chose a different path. While internally she suffers to take this decision, externally she has to pose herself courageous to go on with her decision. When she takes a decision for divorce she immediately never looks for another man, that is for sure. Vas asked if we have met a divorced woman, i have too met and talked with them and seen the hurt in their eyes. In some cases love marriage while in other cases settled marriage and it is painful for them to opt out of the marriage, specially so if she is having children. Vas said "sure of getting another boy soon" in our Indian society, when finding boys for unmarried girl is so pitiful, is it so easy to find another boy for a divorcee girl/lady. I am sorry but it is not that easy as it sounds. Unfortunately, the society always points a finger on the girl, specially on her character, irrespective of if she divorces herself of if her husband divorces her. Our society is still not so liberal to accept a divorced girl or lady amongst it. Still there have been few of these brave girls/ladies who took a decision stick to it and lived with their head held high all their life.
    Yes i too agree that both man and woman get affected due to divorce but in most of the cases it is the woman who is the worst sufferer.
    Quote from tadalamurthy I find somehow the maturity levels of Indian women lesser which keep them afraid of social taboos and mired in the affections they develop towards their children.

    Fully agree with Tadala the social taboo stops the Indian woman to take any drastic decision

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  13. syamala Yesterday, 14:33
    Some women who have gone through bad marriage may find themselves liberated and free after divorce. Isn't it better to be single than having a husband who abuses? I think it is better. I have a friend who went through a bad marriage...after divorce sent me a mail, single sentence " I am liberated and I love my freedom!". I felt happy for her.
    What happens later....nobody can tell. She can rebuild her life. She and children can be happy together. Society is not that bad after all.....They do not look down on a single woman. I was writing about my friend. She was working, did her part time Ph.D, her daughters highly educated, good boys married them.
    Single men also can have problems. They also would find solutions and means to make their life meaningful. Marriage is not the end of life.

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  14. Babu Yesterday, 17:16
    I know a few instances where first married life (love marriage) failed
    and then next arranged marriage had been successful, because both
    boy and girl went thro' the trauma and understood what is a married
    life and live amicably.

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  15. Hari1941 Yesterday, 19:49
    Very little was heard of divorce a few decades ago. There was social stigma attached to it and it was more difficult for women. Women were further disadvantaged because of financial insecurity. She accepted abandonment rather than legal separation. As the poem suggests, times have changed for women who are financially secured and they do not hesitate to take the step if living together becomes impossible. I know some such cases. The real casualty are the young children, if any. They are simply cut into two pieces. I know a case where a divorcee woman with a son and a divorcee man with a daughter have tied the knots. These two kids are brother and sister with no single parents. I hope TK will pen a poem to read the minds of these unfortunate kids. One longs for mother and the other for father. It is very difficult to dwell on human feelings because each individual is unique but a poet like TK can explore it.

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  16. Ruchi Khandelwal 12:04am Dec 4
    beautifully crafted words brilliant

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  17. Sadia Khan 3:49am Dec 4
    A sensitive take... Deep and truthful insight.... Brilliant read, Sir!

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  18. Sumeet Gulabani 7:38am Dec 4
    A sensitive write. :)

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  19. Irfan Ali Khan 9:09am Dec 4
    Divorce: just murder of emotions......can feel

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  20. Aalia Khan 9:54pm Dec 4
    touching indeed...! best part is it ends on a positive note..." May meet some one
    sensitive and sane
    lovely and grounded
    caring with feelings
    allowing me
    to smile again. "

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