Monday, 4 August 2014

True Love

True Love
The other day I had nothing to do. So I ventured out. I took a bus. I found a college going boy and girl clasping each other’s hand saying, “I Love you..I love you too.” Both were oblivious of amusing expression on the faces of fellow passengers. Society seems to approve what was a taboo earlier. I  de-boarded at my designated stop and went to a park boasting of a historical monument. I found a lip-locked couple with their hand busy writing on the monument wall ‘ I LOVE YOU’  I also watched a honeymooner throwing flying kisses to his newly wedded partner and making signs of a heart in the air  and whispering loudly “ I Love you”.

Hasn’t  ‘I love you’ become somewhat demeaning. A cliché, devoid of all the feelings of true love and affection. What about parental love, brotherly and sisterly love and the love which has connotations of affection, feelings, longing or sensuality but no sexuality? Platonic love.

 An unknown female in the a company of a male is immediately misunderstood  to be indulging in some sort of suspicious relationship irrespective of the fact that they may be father- daughter, mother-son, sister-brother, cousins, uncle-niece, just friends or colleagues who are out to walk, shop, sight-see or enjoy a movie. When a girl or a boy says to her father/ mother “ papa/ mama “I love you” she is declaring her basic affection towards her parents.  Sometimes utterance of I love you is misunderstood by two opposite sexes, particularly those who are in some kind of a relationship, as a craving for sexual gratification, a desire to go physical. It is lust not love. When lust becomes an important subsidiary of love and overshadows love, love loses its real meaning. Acronym of LOVE in this case then becomes:
L- Love
Any ingredient missing results in showdowns and marital discords. It happens in live-in-relationships and where sex is thought only the means to beget love. It is the end result without love having been flourished through the various stages like a bud blooming to a flower slowly and gradually. This sort of love is self destructive wherein only bodily attributes come to fore. True Love is not at all about the bodies. Agreed that procreation is a part of sexual satisfaction and action but the love word becomes then synonym of affection, caring, sharing, mutual trust and understanding. In this context I produce one of my published poems on the subject

True Love

A true love is
Neither lust nor greed nor desire
It is divine building of emotions
Standing tall with
Foundation of trust
Bricks of feeling
Cement of sensitivity
Pillars of grace
A true love flourishes then
Bearing fruit
It is evolution
And evolution evolves
Birth of a new creation.
 A bright light glows around true lovers with the power of true love. In the absence of affection, sharing, caring, mutual trust and understanding , love is totally meaningless and devoid of any true feelings of love. Ensure that someone does not want to rub love the wrong way.
I love you is in fact an expression of concern also. Added with affection,  true love automatically develops a sense of  caring and sharing. Making it seem vulgar and cheap by one’s action/ utterances always undermine the true meaning of ‘I love you’. From time immemorial these three magic words have been instrumental in bringing changes in the society worldwide. Entire humanity thrives on LOVE bringing the humankind together and evolving a sense of belonging in generations.  ‘I love you’ does have an undercurrent of sexism as procreation could not have been possible without physical intimacy but isn’t it confined to couples only that too, a married one. Here also procreation can happen without actually having a feeling of love. So procreation cannot be a proof of love or true love irrespective of the fact ‘I love you ‘ is  often repeated time and again by the indulging partners.

Love can thrill. It can kill. It makes one sane and wise. At the same time, it can destroy. Wars have been waged for the sake of love. Kingdoms have been destroyed and born because of love. Peace has been brought because of love. Families are broken then united, marriages are solemnised , suicides are committed and fights break out because of love.

Romeo- Juliet, Helen of Troy, King Edward VIII of England, Sohni-Mahiwal, Shiri- Farhad, Heer-Raanja, Alluddin Kilji’s  infatuation with Rani Padmawati (Paddmani of Chitore), Razia Sultan- Yakut, Noorjahan –King Shahjhan, Anarkali- Shazada Saleem (Khuram: son of Mugal Kind Akbar) are but a few  examples  of “ I LOVE YOU SYNDROME”, some of which culminated in changing the course of history and some creating folklores. Indian philosophy and its essence is based on theme of love. True love always leads to a bonding, strives to achieve life full of satisfaction and contentment ultimately leading to spirituality. Sexuality does have a part but in a limited way. So any one who pronounces his/her love by uttering ‘ I LOVE YOOOOOOU’ on the rooftop  cannot/ should not be taken seriously.

Love is omnipresent in every form. It is present in every aspect of our life. I love you has a special place in our psychic.  It starts from a womb of a mother to parental love- sisterly& brotherly love, friendly love, lover’s love and husband & wife’s love. A feeling for someone, a simple touch or a pat, an advice showing concern all go to show the protagonist wants to say that I love you.  Love cannot be just wished away. Relationships are based on love combined with respect. Relationships break in absence of mutual understanding of love. TRUE Love cannot survive disrespect, disharmony, lack of commitment/faith/trust, dishonesty, cheating etc. I love you loses its sheen and charm. To say I love you then becomes farce.

So , whenever one says I LOVE YOU, one has to be true to his/her feelings and true to his/her heart. True love can never be defined yet here is one of my poems outreaching love to express love.


Love is bonding between sisters and brothers
Love is sharing by husbands and wives
Love is caring of parents & children
Love is emotional with everyone else.

Love is potion on the bed
Love is ocean and never dead
Love is in our hearts and in brain
Love is in blood and in our veins.

Love happens, can’t be created
Love is compassion, can’t be rated
Love is smile, makes us laugh
Love is deluge, can’t be hated.

Love is not showing your assets
Love is different from bloody lust
Love is not possessiveness shown
Love is what you give the best.

Love is not in your eyes
Love is not on your lips
Love is never demanding
Love which is true, never dips.

Love makes you to sacrifice
Love makes you to survive
Love can’t be gauged by language
Love makes a dead to revive.

Love knows no frontiers
Love knows no religion
Love has no caste
Love has no region.

Love is passion, love is respect
Love is forgiveness, love is peace
Love is power, love is faith
Love is prayer, love if true never cease.

Love makes you feel wanted
Love makes you get mated
Love makes you feel seduced
Love never makes you subdued.

Love is everlasting relationship
not infatuation
Love is everything
but punctuation.

Love is not give and take
Love is what you do for other’s sake
Love makes you feel stronger
Love is God makes you live longer.

Love is inferno, experience its pangs
Love is jealous within the gangs
Love is life, smooth but coy
Love is rain, indulge and enjoy.

Love is grace, blessing our progeny
Love is exhilarating, ending our agony
Love makes us positive, negating the negatives
Love is symphony bringing the harmony.

The concept of love can never be defined
It is so vast and too refined
Love is eternal and never dies
Love makes human sane and wise.
All rights reserved/Tribhawan Kaul
Note :- Poems True Love and Love Love Love are from the poetry book ‘Children of Lost Gods’ penned by the author of this article.


  1. Babu

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  2. Hari1941
    "The concept of love can never be defined
    It is so vast and too refined
    Love is eternal and never dies
    Love makes human sane and wise."
    Love needs no definition.
    "pyaar ko pyaar hi rahane do koi naaam na do" was such a lovely song.

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  3. VAS
    I love my loving friend TK's lovely and lively poem on LOVE.
    Love feeling differs with different age.
    I never enjoyed the love of our loving kids and GCs till i become a father/Grand father.
    We can not enjoy lip lock love too after 55.
    Love with sister goes strong at all ages but not with brother.
    So let us enjoy love from any one who love us from heart.
    Human can never match the love of dog/pet animal who will even sacrifice their life for LOVE

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  4. Chakra
    Love should not be confined to individuals. It should be universal. "Loka Samastha Sukhino Bhavanthu".

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  5. Hari1941
    So love can mean different to different people but only few will experience it. TK in the last line you say love makes a human sane and wise and that is the crux of all that goes in the name of love. True love is a rare commodity. I love you, I love you too are just phrases that do not have any intrinsic value. The good part is that true love does exist somewhere. Thanks for posting

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  6. Hari Bhai, I agree with you that true love does exist but not somewhere, it is within us provided we acknowledge that True Love is a potent weapon with us to mitigate the sufferings of human kind and usher a society of peace, love and brotherhood. Physical love is only secondary./TK

  7. muthurajan
    The concept of love can never be defined - rightly so!

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  8. tadalamurthy
    I liked the depth of your (TK) understanding about love. It is very difficult to define or perceive love, when love is viewed with apparent/ relative/ ideal point.
    But nobody can understand the Absolute LOVE, which is simply just one micro step below god.
    "It is divine building of emotions" - if love is mixture of emotions, that love may probably become contaminated.

    Possibly LOVE has become a three letter word these days.
    My personal opinion--- True love can not happen since one loves oneself most and it is impossible for one to love another to the extent one loves oneself.

    Great poet Kalidasa hesitated (according to a story) for a long time to write Abhijnana Shakuntalam because he thought Dushyant was not suitable to be chosen as hero of the poem because he forgot his lover. Kalidasa wrote that poem after getting a hint that Shakuntala was cursed by a sage.

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  9. August 5 at 10:14pm •
    Dear Friends. I want to change the Title of this article from ‘True Love’ to ‘I Love You Syndrome’. Please suggest if it fits the article. If there is no response, I shall understand ‘True Love’ is the correct title.
    True Love
    The other day I had nothing to do. So I ventured out. I took a bus. I found a college going boy and girl clasping each other’s hand saying, “I Love you..I love you too.”.......

    Jagjit Jit
    Sir, I feel "Expression of Love" may fit ...
    August 5 at 10:28pm •

    Sangeeta Talwar Suneja
    The rehearsals of love.
    Yesterday at 6:25am •

    Tadala Murthy
    does the title really matters. is it not the stuff in it that matters. you have to decide on it. The article is good and it served its purpose.
    Yesterday at 9:25am

    Tribhawan Kaul
    I appreciate the titles offered Sangeeta Talwar Suneja Ji and Jagjit Jit Ji. However my idea was to get the views on the aptness of the alternate title " I Love You Syndrome'. Thanks for going through the link sparing your valuable time.
    Yesterday at 8:44pm •

    Tadala Murthy
    I love you syndrome... this title may be alright if your original poems are deleted from the article. But True Love...title is best suited when all points(contents) mentioned in the article are taken into account.
    20 hrs

    Tribhawan Kaul
    Dear Tadala Murthy. It is so nice of you having gone through the link. Thanks. Yes, as William Shakespeare said "A rose by any other name would smell as sweet" in Romeo Juliet , name does not matter. I am also inclined to agree that if the poems are taken out of the article, ' I love you syndrome' will fit. Otherwise True Love is fine. Thanks. Happy reading.

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